It is safe to say, most people associate wellness with happiness, inner peace, satisfaction, vitality, and positive energy. But is that all wellness boils down to?
In order to answer that question, you must take an inventory of your life, specifically the three C’s. Taking inventory grants you awareness. Without awareness you tend to drift around like a ship lost at sea.
Once you become aware, you can exercise those aspects you are lacking. If you commit to diligently working on the areas you’re weakest in, you will experience a heightened level of health and wellness.
Unlocking the three C’s
Start taking inventory of your life by asking, “Am I showing up in a way that reflects my best self?” If the answer is ‘yes,’ then you are living in alignment with your personal truth or code. Really think about whether you’re living your best life.
If you’re not living in alignment, you’ll feel bad. Bad feelings can take many shapes, such as guilt, lack of motivation, remorse, anxiety, fear, self doubt, anger, and frustration. All of these emotions are indicators that some aspect of your life is off kilter.
Understand that you’re not going to be your best self every day, but strive to make a consistently conscious choice to be the best version of you. When you mess up or fall short, acknowledge that you screwed up and move on having learned from your mistake. Make your apologies but don’t make excuses. Forgive and ask for forgiveness but don’t forget.
Essentially, be mindful of how you’re using the limited amount of time that has been allotted to you. Be present and avoid daydreaming your way through life.
How are your relationships?
Can you write down the top five most important people in your life?
Are you connecting with people of quality frequently?
How would you score your closest relationships on a scale of 1-10?
If the scores are not 10/10, what can you do to improve upon them?
These can be difficult questions to ask yourself, especially if you’re like me and have an introverted personality. However, it is vital that you be open and honest with yourself when answering these questions. Whether you’re aware of it or not, you suffer when you don’t show up as your best self in relationships.
As human beings, we were created to be socially interactive, personal, and relational. These attributes were instilled in us to help us not hinder us. No man is a lone wolf or an island, no matter how much he/she believes him/herself to be. If you’re not connecting with other people and generating meaningful relationships, then you’re not living your best life.
I get it, dealing with people can be difficult, but don’t blame the other person and don’t blame the circumstances. Take responsibility for your part and make amends when needed. By doing so, you’re freeing yourself to move forward.
Contribution gives us a sense of meaning, fulfillment, and purpose, and as humans, we sense our purpose goes beyond simply surviving in this world. I’m not simply talking about your contribution in the job field. Your contribution extends beyond your career. Look to your community, family, and faith to get a fuller picture of how well you’re contributing.
Ask yourself, “What’s the reason I get up each day?” Ultimately, you can live in two ways – purposefully or impishly. When you allow the days to go by without purpose, you’re robbing yourself and others of your talents and special gifts. This leads you to deny yourself health and well-being.
Wellness is more than making yourself feel good. There’s an element of wellness that can bleed over into selfishness. Rituals, pampering, living your life how you want it regardless of other people’s needs, and blissful ignorance are not the right ways to approach life. When mortality strikes, you will not be wishing you spent more time at the spa.
Yes, it’s important to take care of yourself, but not at the expense of your values, morals, and duties. Take care of yourself, but at the same time assess how you’re showing up on a daily basis. That leads to true wellness.
Dr. Christine Bradstreet
Feb. 23, 2019